I was sent a copy of Yell Less, Love More for review. But I’d planned on buying it anyway. All opinions are my own. This post also contains an affiliate like.
I am a yeller. There is no doubt about it. i yell about all types of stuff. I don’t know when I became this way, but I know I do. If I’m in a mood, watch out! So, I stumbled across The Orange Rhino one day in my quest for solutions. There she was, someone else who could relate. The difference was… she stopped yelling. Not for a day or two, but her challenge was 365 days and she DID IT! She actually did way more days, but the that’s besides the point.
I was determined to make it happen. I don’t need the added stress, and my child doesn’t need to see me lose it. So when Sheila was looking for people interested in reading her upcoming book, I jumped at the chance. I needed help with this challenge. i had read the forums, but I needed something a bit more structured. This book “Yell Less, Love More” is not only a memoir of how she did it, but a 30 day guide with tips and tricks to help you do it too. At first, I was thinking I would just read and accomplish one day at a time. Well… I’m no Orange Rhino yet, so I would have never gotten through the book yet. Instead I read through the book, highlighting tips that resonated with me and tried to get past 3 days… again.
The reason behind a rhino was simple. A rhino is a naturally calm animal that charges when provoked. So that makes an Orange Rhino a person that parents with warmth and determination and who doesn’t charge with words when angry, impatient, or simply in a bad mood.
There is a “yelling meter” that explains what voices are acceptable and when you go back to 0, or even -2. I’ve been back to 0 a few times.
The way the book is laid out is great. There are 30 days worth of tasks, some harder than others, included in the book. Day 1… Admit the need to change. No one wants to do that. Her story of her “need to change” moment is one that was easy to relate to in that “I’ve been right there” kinda way. Sheila shares her stories and it feels like chatting with an old friend, rather than some “perfect parent” telling you what you need to do. She shares quotes throughout the book, and a few of these have made it to the memo board in my house. This is partly be cause I love the quote and partly because, as she says “Being surrounded by visual reminders to parent with more love and warmth kept me on my toes and focused on my goal”.
Tracking triggers is the yucky, dig within yourself part of the book. I will warn you now, it’s not fun. Not even remotely. She does include a trigger tracking sheet in the book though, to help you figure it out. What she learned was that she was taking out her own anger on her kids. It was like being in the wrong place at the wrong time. But tracking your triggers helps you get YOU under control, so you can better deal with the kids.
There will be a lot of frustration, and in my case and I’m sure many others, tears. You can do it! The Orange Rhino really does lead the way. You are not alone on your journey. You are a part of a large community, who can truly relate to what you are going through.
For all my work, success and failures, I survived an impromptu DISNEY vacation with a 28 mo old who got no nap before the theme park. Not once, not even a little, did I lose it. I was so proud of myself. I know that before, at some point, I would have lost it. I was cranky about not having time to get ready for the trip and the drive. I was cranky about not getting the hotel I wanted. I was just plain cranky. Yet, in the end, it turned out to be a wonderful PEACEFUL weekend. Thank you Sheila!
Do you often find yourself losing your cool and yelling at your kids? It happens to us all, but it doesn’t have to. With Yell Less, Love More you’ll learn practical, simple solutions to keep you focused on loving more and yelling less, no matter what the circumstance. It is possible to change and enjoy a calmer life because of it! Take the Orange Rhino 30-day challenge to yell less. In this guidebook to happier parenting, author Sheila McCraith shares daily thoughts, tips, and motivational personal stories to help you toss out the screams and welcome in the peace. Whether you have one child or twenty (or one you still yell at who is twenty), strengthen your relationships and maybe even laugh a little more–by taking the challenge today.